Dating Advice
How safe is Widow Dating? Feel safe on Widow DatingHere at Widow Dating we want you to feel safe and secure so that’s why for the last 8 months our support office have spent over £1 Million in fighting the scammers. So where has this money gone? 1: We now employee a team of 23 people who check each and every profile which is a long and tiring process, but we believe that you can’t just rely on a computer system to find the con artists. In the last few months the team have looked through every profile and 1000’s were deleted as a result. 2: We have state of the art software that can also check content on the site and warn us of any wrong doing. The system will flag our moderation team who then deal with the situation straight away. 3: We use high-grade 256-bit encryption for all credit card transactions and process all payments securely using Protx (part of Sage Group PLC). Protx has achieved the highest level of compliance under the Payment Card Industry Data Security Standard (PCI). We adhere to the most stringent levels of fraud screening, ensuring that your customer’s details remain secure throughout the transaction process. And if all that fails then we can count on you, our loyal customers to tell us of any scammers you have found. If you every come across any than simply click on the persons profile and click ‘report profile’ that will then be sent to our team who can deal with the issue. Before I go and help combat these villains let me just remind you of what to look out for just in case you ever have the unfortunate misfortune to stumble across one of these scammers. Email Discrepancies. Neither of these email discrepancies are cause for alarm; a lot of people aren’t very good with spelling and grammar, and they may be writing English as a second language. But if more than one of the following email discrepancies pop up during the course of your communications, it may be an internet dating scam. * Communication is vague, difficult to understand or is repeated. Appropriate Responses Where the danger lies however, is not their interest in you as a person, but rather that they don’t offer any detailed, personal information about themselves in return, or doesn’t really answer your emails in a personal manner, but rather changes the topic with each contact. Appropriate responses are integral to determining whether or not the relationship you are creating is based in reality and not a potential internet dating scam. Could the person emailing you be merely copying and pasting responses from a pre-determined outline or script, or do their emails really seem to “get” you and offer some sort of individualized attention? Being asked for Money and/or cashing a cheque. If somebody asks you to wire them cash online – no matter what the reason, no matter how plausible or sad it sounds – don’t. Unrealistic or Fake photos. Of course models, actors and other extremely attractive people want to find love too, and you may very well have lucked out in the attractiveness category with the person you are communicating with online. But if your online date also falls into one of the other internet dating scam categories listed here, then you may want to do a bit more investigating, first. What Our Female Members Really WantWhile we were asking our females what they like to see on Widow Dating we also found out what sort of messages they like to receive, what turns them on and what turns them off. Now’s the time to really pay attention and make sure you’re doing all you can to satisfy our Widow Dating women What kind of private messages do our girls prefer to receive? 50% want “humour, intelligence and personality” 19% like a man to “show an interest” in them 10% enjoy “naughty x-rated fantasies” 9% like “offers” to take them out 7% said “indecent proposals” 5% want “romance” What’s their biggest turn off? 35% say a man thinking with his manhood instead of his brain 33% say receiving phone numbers/men demanding my phone number straight away in a first message 10% say a man who boasts about the number of women he’s slept with 10% say getting my name wrong in a message or not using it at all 7% say a man who boasts about the size of his manhood 5% say receiving long life stories in a first message What makes them more likely to meet up with someone? 70% said “if the man lives nearby” 21% prefer “lots of photos” 9% like “video profiles” And where do they most like to meet up? 48% = “Bar/pub” 17% = “Coffee shop” 10% = “His place” 10% = “My place” 6% = “Hotel” 5% = “Restaurant” 4% = “The great outdoors” In conclusion If you want to get a woman’s attention on Widow Dating, make sure you don’t come across too forceful. There’s a fine line between confidence and arrogance! If she wants to give you her phone number, she will. Pestering her for it won’t get you anywhere! Our Widow Dating ladies don’t want to travel to the other end of the country for some first date, regardless of how good you claim it will be. If you find a great female who lives miles away, be prepared to travel to her and don’t take offence if she doesn’t reply at all – there are plenty of ladies close to you that will! Finally, when it comes to actually meeting up with one of our sexy women from Widow Dating it would seem that a bar or pub is the favoured location. You can have a drink, calm those nerves (if there are any!), and see if the chemistry’s there then carry on the fun somewhere more private if so desired. Remember these tips and have fun!
How To Say I Love You Without Saying A WordThere are actually several ways to say I love you even with the absence of words. Remember that action speaks louder than words. Words may not be enough to show someone you love him or her. 1. Let go of your past One way to say I love you even with the absence of words is to let go of your past. When you completely let go of your past, you are actually telling him how much you love him or her. When you are tied up with your past, you are just giving him or her doubtful thoughts regarding your true feelings. When the person you love learns and feels you have completely forgotten your past, you are actually telling him or her I love you. 2. No comparisons Another way to say I love you even with the absence of words is to never have comparisons. Do not compare him or her to anybody; especially with your ex. Always make him or her feel that she is special and a unique individual, and that you love him or her for who she is. When you make that person feel that he or she is incomparable, you are actually silently telling him or her I love you. 3. Accept flaws and weaknesses This is one of the best ways to say I love you even with the absence of words. You do not actually demand for a person to change if you love him or her. You accept the person for who she or he is, and cover up the weaknesses. This is one of the greatest ways to say I love you. Saying I love you may not be enough. Consider these three ways and let that someone feel how much you love them!
Healthier, Wealthier But Living Alone!Apart from shining a spotlight on the way we live now, the latest ONS Social Trends survey provides a fascinating glimpse of Britain 40 years ago. It was a place where coal was the biggest single source of domestic energy, where nearly half of all households did not have regular use of a car, where a quarter of men were classified as heavy smokers and where nearly 24 million working days a year were lost to strike action. Fast forward to the present and it’s the central role played in our lives by new technology that stands out as the most obvious change. Two thirds of households now have an internet connection, something undreamt of in the 1970s, while 89% have digital TV. Choices for women And the energy bill to power all this domestic technology is vast. It’s the equivalent of 6.8 million tonnes of oil every year for lighting and electrical appliances, compared with 2.7 million tonnes in 1970. But perhaps the most significant changes in our lifestyles over the past generation have been shaped by the greater opportunities and choices available to women. They’re getting married later – the average age of a first marriage for women is now just two months before her 30th birthday. The proportion of babies born to women under the age of 25 has halved since 1971. Women now outnumber men in further and higher education. Those trends are reflected in the rising number of one-person households – from 18% of all households in 1971 to 29% now. Intriguingly, this survey also found that more than two thirds of people aged 18 or over in Britain believe that they do not need a partner to lead a happy and fulfilled life. Life expectancy This question wasn’t asked by the ONS in its first survey in 1970 so, annoyingly, we don’t know how attitudes to the desirability of partners have changed since then – though we can make an educated guess. In general we’re more likely to live alone than we were 40 years ago, in a house stuffed full of new technology, and we’re living longer. Life expectancy has risen sharply, especially for men, from 68.7 years in 1970 to 77.8 years now. And deaths from circulatory diseases – strokes and heart attacks – have fallen dramatically with the decline in smoking. In fact, cancer has replaced circulatory disease as the main cause of death in women. But other risks have increased. Alcohol-related deaths have nearly doubled since the mid-90s. And there’s another even more sobering statistic – 77% of adults aged 65 to 74 in England are now classified as obese or overweight. It seems that our new lifestyles have brought with them new health dangers. Source: Greg Wood – BBC News
Single Parent Dating Advice.Single parent dating tips have to address issues that people without children don’t ever have to worry about. Let’s face it – being a single parent is pretty difficult at times to begin with. Throw trying to establish a special adult relationship into the mix and you’ve got lots of complications. I’ve put together some single parent dating tips that can help simplify things so that you can relax and enjoy dating again. Explaining it to Your Kids. When you are going out on a date, let your kids know that you’re going out with a friend. It’s a simple, honest explanation. Especially with younger kids, no more details are needed; if they ask who the friend is, simply say that it is someone from work, a friend of your neighbour, or whoever it is. Don’t try to explain too much – simpler is better. Avoiding Resentment. Don’t introduce your children to someone you’re dating until you’re pretty sure the relationship is going somewhere. Meeting several different people over time will only confuse them, and they may come to resent your dating anyone at all. Introduce Your New Friend Slowly. Once you’re ready to introduce your significant other to your children, do so slowly. The first time, it should be simply ice cream or perhaps some time in the park. Gradually allow more time with the kids and include them on some appropriate “family dates.” Your Children Come First. Here is a very important single parent dating tip: make it clear from the beginning that your children will come first in any situation. If this seems to be a problem for anyone you’re seeing, it’s time to stop the relationship. Any man or woman who is jealous of your children isn’t a good bet for a relationship. Your Commitments Come First. If you’re a single parent who only sees his children every other weekend or a similar schedule, make this clear. Tell someone you are dating that you won’t be available on those weekends, and stick to it until you’re ready to have everyone get together. This reassures your children and gives the person you’re dating an idea of the commitment involved in dating someone with children. Don’t Move Too Quickly. If you allow your kids to get close to someone early on, only to break up with them a few months later, they will end up hurt and confused. This is especially essential if you’re just starting to date again after losing a partner. Listen to Your Kids. Once your children have met someone you’re dating, listen to their input. (A dating tip I got from a lot of single parents). This doesn’t mean axing your social life if your son or daughter says, “I don’t want you to date anymore,” without a good explanation. However, if he or she says they really don’t like him because he yells at them, doesn’t pay attention to them or just makes them uncomfortable, listen. Discuss the concerns with your companion, watch how he or she interacts with your children and put some real thought into the situation. Reassure Your Children. Reassure your children that dating someone is completely separate from your love for them. Explain the importance of having a special adult in your life, but that it doesn’t diminish your feelings for them. These single parent dating tips won’t guarantee completely smooth sailing, but it will make the process less confusing for everyone concerned.
How To Spot A Gold Digger!1. Understand what a gold digger is, and is not. There’s nothing wrong with a person being concerned about your financial stability. A long-term partnership means depending on each other through the ups and downs, and being financially reliable does help with that to a degree. The difference between a gold digger and someone who values your role as a provider is that the gold digger would deride and perhaps leave you if you lost your ability to provide for them financially. A good person can appreciate your financial resources, but a gold digger appreciates only that, and will not see the relationship as worthwhile if you’re not well off. And remember a Gold digger is usually associated with a female but it’s also men who scour for wealthy women too. 2. Gold diggers drop hints that they’re having trouble paying their bills (sometimes they might even ask you directly for a “loan” to tide them over). They know that you don’t want to see them get an eviction notice, or get their car repossessed, and you’re a good person who’s in a position to help. But there’s a difference between a gold digger and someone who’s just fallen on bad times. What you should be looking for is if, despite their situation, this person is making poor financial decisions for example spending money on luxury items such as new clothes or expensive restaurants. 3. When they discuss their financial woes, suggest ways in which the suspected gold digger can make money fast. When you mention the possibility of them selling their luxury car, video console, guitar, diamond bracelet, or any other expensive item that could keep them from becoming homeless or having their utilities cut off or car repossessed, how do they respond? The average person will be saddened and may even become angry or upset, but a gold digger will be appalled at the very idea that they should have to give up their prized possessions in order to meet their own basic needs. They’ll treat the idea as ludicrous. 4. Look for a sense of entitlement. Gold diggers feel that they deserve to be treated well, and that includes knowing that someone is willing to spend money on them. Have you noticed unreasonable expectations of especially favourable treatment? This sense of entitlement is one of the symptoms of narcissistic behaviour, which has other symptoms that a potential gold digger might harbour:
5. Ask them meaningful questions. What is the best gift they’ve ever gotten? Gold diggers will almost always cite an expensive, material object, not a uniquely personal and thoughtful gift. What’s the biggest thing you ever had to give up to get something you really wanted? What you’re searching for here is evidence of delayed gratification – the ability to give up something now so that you can achieve something greater, later. Gold diggers are notoriously spoiled or sheltered, and have never had to really wait, work, or struggle for what they want because somehow, someone was always there to help. 6. See what questions they ask you. Certain questions which might seem harmless might really be an attempt to judge your ability to provide. None of these questions, alone, should get you worried but all of them on the first date should definitely send up a red flag:
7. Search for signs of generosity and gratitude towards you. After having gone on several dates, has this person ever offered to pay? When you do pay, does he or she say thank you? Do they ever offer to help you in other ways? (And no, physical intimacy doesn’t count); do they cook you dinner when you’ve been out working late? Fix your computer? Run an errand for you when your schedule’s especially tight? If these character traits are missing, is this really someone you want to get involved with? A person doesn’t develop gratitude and generosity overnight… 8. Indulge in a pipe dream. A pipe dream is basically a long shot. Take one of your childhood fantasies and run with it. Tell the person you’re dating that you’re thinking about becoming the mechanic, farmer, supermodel, writer, [insert dream career here] you’ve always wanted to be. Explain how if you were to ever do this, it would require a significant lifestyle change; you’d have to go back to school, relocate, or whatever would make it clear that your standard of living will go down dramatically. How does this person respond? Do they seem concerned? That’s normal. A good person will encourage you to follow your dreams while simultaneously helping you think of ways to do it practically and responsibly. A gold digger will look horrified or disgusted and say things like “You’re not really serious, are you?” OR they are ready to call it quits and leave because you are paying attention to “you” instead of “them”. 9. Watch yourself. It feels good to help people, whether you just helped someone avoid becoming homeless, or you’re helping an aspiring artist or entrepreneur launch his or her career, but you have to be careful that you don’t fall into a pattern where your help become the norm, so much so that without your financial assistance, the relationship would crumble. If you’re the kind of person who has trouble saying “no”, or who is intensely sympathetic and compassionate, you’re more likely to bump into a gold digger. 10. Listen to the types of questions you are asked. Even seemingly innocuous questions like “What do you do?” and “Where do you live?” can be loaded questions, asked in an attempt to ascertain your net worth and lifestyle. In any case, do not answer these questions directly – but start out by explaining your life story. What things happened to you as a child/teenager that shaped the life you live today? A person truly interested in who you are will listen intently and ask questions of a more personal nature – whereas a gold digger will not have the patience to get to know you first; they will only want to find out your current financial position before investing any time in you.
Playing By The Rules…Keeping You Safe.We all like to enjoy our time online,but we have to play by the rules. Here at Widow Dating there’s nothing more important to us than offering our Members a good time online but be safe as well. We’ve listened to what you want and we’re committed to making Widow Dating a place you want to spend time and know what you’re getting. Like surprises? Don’t we all, but sometimes we get a nasty shock too. We want to make sure that only genuine people get to have fun on Widow Dating, so we’re going to be checking every new profile uploaded to make sure it meets the grade. If it doesn’t – you won’t be seeing it! It’s not a one time thing either, every time a profile is changed or edited – we’ll be watching. We all like attention, but we’re keen to make sure it’s the right sort of attention you’re getting. So we’re introducing Message Approval on Widow Dating. All new Members will have their messages approved by us. This will help us weed out 99% of non-genuine Members who are up to no good. Please don’t worry our team of experts no what they are looking for so please don’t feel you have to hold back any important messages to someone special. We all use words to help us get what we want – and things are no different here on Widow Dating. But some people use them to deliberately mislead or misrepresent themselves to others. That’s not the sort of activity we want going on within our site. Our new system allows us to monitor profiles, messages and diaries for suspicious or inappropriate activity and put a stop to it! If you’ve got any further questions about these new features or anything else regarding your membership on Widow Dating, please don’t hesitate to contact our friendly Customer Care Team. Simply drop them an e-mail at support@globalpersonals.co.uk with your query and they’ll get back to you within 24 hours. If it can’t wait that long, why not give them a ring on 01753 271286 between 9am and 5pm, 7 days a week. Playing by the rules doesn’t have to mean taking the fun out of it!
Reasons To Avoid Free Dating Sites.100 percent free online dating sites have both pros and cons. Everyone has heard of these dating sites by now, and how they can benefit those who seek a friend, a companion, a short term sexual encounter or a long term romance and marriage. Some 100 percent free online dating sites don’t do enough, however, to screen out the predators, and often welcome or turn their back on their knowledge that there are married people and other undesirables posing as singles looking for dates. Some 100 percent free online dating sites are specifically designed with cheating spouses in mind. Online dating, whether 100 percent free dating sites or not, can offer the shy, the busy, the newly unattached, and those who can’t easily travel to public gathering places the opportunity to meet potential partners in a less threatening and more focused environment. Those are the pros. The cons are that online dating, especially the 100 percent free dating sites, give predators and undesirables the opportunity to disguise their identities and their less than honest intentions behind the anonymous wall of the Internet. 100 percent free online dating sites are much more prevalent than they were five or ten years ago, and as happens with any service or product, once the competition sets in the price goes down and the offer enhances. Many online dating sites, even the 100 percent free ones, now provide not only profiles and photos of others looking for that special someone, but also guide you through defining your personality, your perfect mate, and then bring the two of you together in a regimented format of anonymity, email with identification, phone conversation and then finally face to face meeting, if and when the time seems right. Geography is no longer an obstacle to romance with online dating sites. Many online daters search for their mates this way because they travel so often and are so seldom in one place. They search for others who are in like situations or able to tolerate such frequently long distance partnerships. Paying is not necessarily bad – depending on the cost, of course. In some ways the fact that an online dating site is 100 percent free can actually be a con rather than a pro. While free can increase the volume, it also increases the likelihood of dishonest predators and married people hiding their marital status. It also increases the likelihood that business people will join only for the opportunity to sell you their book on dating, or their sexy lingerie and so forth. Like anything else, if it’s free it will attract more unsavoury folks than similar products for which there is a charge. |
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